Friends are essential to living a full life. They are not meant to be number one on your list of the most important relationships but they are right up there behind God & if your married after your hubby:)
Friends need intentional time invested in them. We need each other and for independent spirits (me;)out there that may not come as naturally to reach out and pursue your friends but its definitely worth it!
I got to see my lifelong childhood best friends this month and it had been too LONG since we'd been together! I miss them everyday but boy i hadn't realized how much i missed them until we embraced and immediately fell into a natural rhythm of talking, laughing & connecting again. I want to cry right now just writing this makes it hard for me to understand why we have to be so far from each other.
In the mist of all our catch up we started talking about friendships. How since becoming adults a new light has been shown on the trials and work that goes into making friendships. We've all grown up, had kids, got married..its much harder now to find lasting and real connection with strangers that just dont automatically get you. Connection isn't instant, walls are up for many women and so many times you are left at arms length and confused at the lack of real connection with women around you. You ask questions like is it me, what did i say what can i do to be more approachable?
And truly sometimes i find that some women seem to not have grown past there adolescent approach to friendship. Who in and who's out? everybody's my friend. There all invited type of attitude, the more the merrier. Talking to my friends now about this makes me more aware how intentional one on one time is. How some become hurt and left out even in a big group setting..See friendship is hard work!!
We talked about how easy it is for us to all be together and not worry about offending each other or worrying about what we think the other thinks about us because duh we know!! We love each other unconditionally and how blessed we are to have this friendship between us. I don't want another 2years to go by before actually seeing them again. So this will take me being intentional!
And as wonderful it is to hold on to childhood friendships there are the new ones I've made now that have changed my life. They breath encouragement and love into my heart. They are a GODSEND! And even though it may feel like we don't have enough time for each other believe me its worth it when we fight for that time.
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
Friendships can be messy, confusing and a whole lot of other things because truly we all have garbage to work through we are all far from perfect. We live in a fallen world were the enemy will use yes even friends to hurt us play into your insecurities and separate you from the love of Christ.(praying over your friendships is so important for this very reason) But don't give up on making friends!! Don't give up on being that friend to someone else because that's what Satan wants. Isolation will not reap growth.
Truly you will never grow from easy friendships.. if you are never challenged and pushed to grow well then we just remain the same. And you know whats wonderful about all this GOD calls us his friend how sweet is that! If anyone can teach us to be a friend its him. Remaining in him and praying over this area of our lives is essential to living a good and long life. Hey that's even scientifically proven people!!
Luke 6:31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.
Romans 12:10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Out do one another in showing honor.
Ephesians 4:29-32 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Colossians 3:12-14 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
SO my challenge if you couldn't already tell!:) is to be the friend i wish to have in my life to the ones i already have and the new ones that i have yet to discover. I'm excited about this people!! This has been on my heart for some time and a new year is upon us a fresh start a new perspective on creating a life i want to live.
So whats your challenge for this next season of your life?
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Merry Christmas!! God bless you and yours:)