“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . ."”
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”
― Elbert Hubbard
― Elbert Hubbard
OK that last one by Mark Twain is a favorite of mine, i just feel he gets me with this quote he gets the easy thing we all have in common and equally desire. A good friend.
Learning and navigating through this adult life is made so much easier with a good friend and if your blessed a "great friend" that god places along your journey to sharpen you & bless you with there love and presence then you are one lucky friend and I'm sure you know it..I do.
A recent conversation had me thrown into a loop of heavy hearted thoughts..am I being a good friend dare i say even great to at least one person. See in this conversation with this beautiful loving friend i realized what a huge common problem we as a people have in desiring friendship is..
We want the wrong kind maybe dare i say with the wrong person in the wrong season of our lives..i know its not profound or anything but really if we understood that yes we can have love and appreciate some friendships were they are and leave it at that. We free those relationships into Gods hands,
and we can instead of controlling relationships to be a certain way for us we begin to pray for God to show us where he wants us to dig deeper into other friendships that we have hardly noticed were even a possibility because we were to busy dwelling on "being left out" or not having a great friendship with so and so.
I think if we don't pray over each other as women especially, I've seen that we start to become petty..and maybe even ugly about how we talk about them which basically makes us gossip about how hurt we are by them and then in turn hurt them back...ahhhhhh!!!! So you see what a viscous cycle that is for our hearts as women. I see it distract us from being a blessing to each other and even more I'm learning that it prevents us from moving into complete freedom&blessings into our lives.
I have been here..on both sides of the fence. So I'm not going to lie to you its been a struggling year for me in this wounded area of friendship. I'm seeing where there is land to claim back, forgiveness to be extended, honor to be given where its been withheld. I see so clearly or at least its becoming so much clearer then ever where i have lost heart and been blind in.
So from the bottom of my heart listen up! YOU women you are amazing God designed creatures
YOU are loved! YOU sensitive loving drama filled sometimes irrational women
YOU ARE WORTH IT!
YOU are nurturers
YOU are life givers
YOU have amazing gifts within you that only you bring to the table that no else does and for that reason alone I hate hearing about women hurting each other either through gossip or just plain fleshy insecurities
YOU deserve friendships!
In fact you deserve great friendships with other women we learn and inspire each other.
Please don't give into the lie that we are not worth the fight we are!
And if you don't believe me get into the word of God and you'll find out how much he loves and adores you and very much treasures your feminine hearts.
He thinks your worth it! I think your worth it too lovelies
"By yourself you're unprotected.
With a friend you can face the worst.
Can you round up a third?
A three-stranded rope isn't easily snapped.(Ecclesiastes 4:12)